It’s that time of the year again wherein every e-commerce newsletter that surprisingly ends up in your e-mail inbox sends you end of year bargains and promos over grocery items and in some ironic twist of fate, several gyms capitalize out of that to earn a decent revenue over individuals who need to shed all the holiday weight- “oh it’ll be Summer in about 3 more months after. I need to get a six pack!” It’s that time of the year when almost every single social media post is full of arbitrary mantras of resolutions “New Year, New You” quotes or “2017, please be kind to me” as if there was no need ever for immediate correction over our own mishaps and shortcomings. As obsessive-compulsive and as much as a perfectionist as I am, which eventually led to a color-coded closet and a curated Instagram feed thank you, I have never felt the need to pin the entire year ahead of me on the success or failures of these resolutions. Don’t get me wrong, I’m dominant & corrective and nothing gratifies me more than having anything that I want done to be done, or when I get my way, but I always reserve a lot of space for improvement for myself or for others when life takes a detour.
The real problem with New Year’s resolutions is not that they’re unfeasible. I don’t feel that “I will exercise more regularly”, “I will eat more vegetables”, or “I will be more open-minded” are irrational in the slightest. The real issue, in my experience, is being bilateral. First, the lack of specificity – what is “exercise”? Walking to the fridge? Be open-minded about what? About what to wear? There’s far too much latitude to pardon yourself from an overwhelming guilt in not ticking that box, or to forget about commitment altogether.
Second, resolutions tend to be positively proactive, which means they just sound good than they are actually being done. That is, you need to actively force yourself to do something – quite onerous when it requires dragging yourself out of bed in the wee hours of dawn to salute the sun.
Proactive improvements are terribly admirable for those of us who can manage them, but given the lack of solving something, or eliminating some problem, “I will be more healthy” is likely to become more of a burden than, say, “I will stop eating fast food”. So, for the year I’m approaching with more optimism than I have ever done, I resolve the following:
- Do What You Need To Do Now: I missed an all-expense paid trip to New York City to watch Justin Bieber live in the actual sexy flesh only because I was too lazy to renew my passport, which I had so much time to work on that, actually a year to be much precise, but the mental portrait of accumulating my documents and waking up early to process it at the foreign affairs department got the best of me. I did miss my flight, but on the other side, I was able to renew my passport to refrain from missing another opportunity. Imagine if you process your own passport now? Or if you finally start that coffee business you’ve been dreaming of owning? Or as simple as finally getting that haircut? No matter how big or simple that is or how exhausting the entire process might feel at the moment, do it now or you may never know what might just happen next.
- Let Go Of What Holds You Back: I have religiously followed the line “let go of toxic people in your life” since I was in Uni but I have always thought it just referred to relationships: a boyfriend/girlfriend, or that buddy who frequently borrows money from you and never pays back. It was just this year that I realized it meant a whole bigger picture far from any Tumblr reference. It meant a job, a client, a task or whatever that makes you feel paralyzed from reaching your potential, or optimizing your result. This year, I quit the job I had for over 2 years and 5 months at a well-known corporation that involved several food brands because I felt I was too familiar with how it operates and wasn’t growing anymore as an artist. After seeing Alessandro Michele and Demna Gvasalia’s groundbreaking outputs in Gucci, Vetements and Balenciaga respectively, I wanted to know what inspired them to manifest such visually satisfying works of art and I knew it involved letting go of what you’re accustomed to.
- Don’t Be Bedazzled: I can instantly smell potential in an individual, and it can be, to some extent, frustrating how those who are more deserving and actually have real talent not have the correct recognition. Dear Creative Millennial, please do not worry if you weren’t invited to an event, or if you weren’t sent a free item by some brand for you to post- unless they paid you to attend or paid you to post or the item sent to you has any possible resell value. Don’t worry if you didn’t win an award- I did win an award this 2016 but I never absorbed it only because it wasn’t a decision by a panel of credible judges, and rather, by the mass voting system (which will always be trivial for me) or has the award ever been a more credible reason for the price I ask from brands, establishments or individuals. In fact, I use being the only Kagay-anon digital personality to be a speaker for University of Sto. Tomas Manila’s Finance Week as more of a bragging right than any award. As I always say, as the world grows wider so does the sea of saturated content and individuals: Looks will fade, fame is seasonal, character can be often subjective but creativity and talent is indisputable.
- Haters Gonna Hate: my name is always mentioned by the mouths I don’t even know of. Or even, to people I haven’t even talked to or interacted with for the longest period of time that I do wonder where does this mindless bickering against me come from. I’d understand if I slept with your partner, talked bad about you, accidentally stepped on your foot or even bought that bag you’ve always wanted, but, I don’t even know you or have I even been 100 meters closest to you. It does hurt for a second, but I have always come in full terms of my identity that I accept my own mistakes and accept them. What bothers me is, why can anyone afford to hate someone they don’t even know or even did anything against them? Even if I were in the position of an audience to witness some feud between two parties, I always say that the person who publicly humiliates another, is not as attractive, or even, has a mouth filthier than the dirty laundry of the other that they exposed.
I wouldn’t really say 2016 was my year, nor was it a bad year at all. Not because it was in any way lukewarm but because I never believed, or is it even proven by any scientific explanation or was it written in any constitutional law, which an individual only gets a single good year in their entire lifetime. Or one unfortunate event is enough for a person to forsake the rest of it and puts the year in eternal damnation. Every year there’s a balance of positive and negative and each one has its significant purpose for a greater, much divine, although non-denominational, agenda.
Happy New Year, kids!
Photographed / Yeezus Shirt by Joaquin Menswear, Paul Christian Watch, Shores Project Watch, Zaful Sunnies.
In Film Outtakes from my favorite 2016 moments/ #ViVidAtTheNest, The Nest Squad, #AxeBlackDavid/#AviationAxe and October Vol. 1.